3 Relationship Mistakes Even Smart People Make

by Mindy Kaleta on April 27, 2015

I was a people pleaser and feared


Smart people make mistakes?  Yes, they do! And nobody is more certain about that than those of us who are still struggling with “being the nice girl” or “people pleasing”!

But ya know what? We don’t have to struggle and actually, I’ve got good news for you! Making mistakes only make us stronger.  When you know what you don’t want, you REALLY know what you DO want! And when you finally figure out what you DO want, not wanting to return to the pits of manipulation, fog, obligation and guilt can really catapult you to choosing a new way that works!

So…I wanted to share with you 3 Relationship Mistakes That Even Smart People Make, a concept that comes directly from my book Stop Bending Over Backwards Trying to Please and Start Being Who You Really Are! There are a few more…but I just could not wait to share these three with you!


Mistake #1 – Not Owning Your Story and Loving Yourself Enough

Why are we so afraid of our story?  Why do we put on the masks, bypass our true feelings and become “Award Winning Actresses”?  How we describe ourselves in our conversation, thoughts and actions tells a lot about how we view ourselves.

When we are constantly putting ourselves down…we aren’t pretty enough, have the ideal weight, we don’t like the way we handle certain situations but don’t know what to do about it or really need to look for another job but can’t seem to muster up the motivation because we are afraid we won’t have what it takes…we are the perfect target for a toxic relationship!


Mistake #2 – Being Unaware of Your Basic Personality Type

Knowing your basic personality type is one of the best ways to start understanding your strengths, weaknesses and natural modes of operation. When you know what you are good at, not so good at and what you naturally would do when faced with certain situations, it becomes easier to pick and choose what’s best for you. And when you know who you really are, it becomes easier to impart that information along to others.  Honoring who you are and expecting the same from others is a real game changer!


Mistake # 3 – Not Discovering Your Personal Needs and Values 

Say what???  I can hear you from here! “What needs are you talking about…mine?  And what I value is important?…yeah, right!”

Now hold on there…YES!  You do have personals needs and values that CAN be met! I know it’s a stretch to believe that it can happen, but I’m here to tell you that I’ve experienced it myself and it’s TRUE!

When you give yourself the time and commitment of finding out what you personally need to live the life that you’ve only dreamed of and become aware of what it is that you value most, you can then set it into action!


And believe me when I say, “Your life is gonna rock!”  Just these three simple steps can make a world of difference in your home, your relationships, your work and YOUR LIFE!

I can’t wait for my book to be released so that you can realize these things for yourself!  It’s being finished up as I write! And I can’t wait to be able to finally get a “birthing date”!

Stay tuned. But in the meantime, start thinking about what your story is right now for you.  What are some things you would change for the better if you could? Just take a moment to give that some thought.  And one more thing…Say something nice to yourself every single day…starting today! It can be as simple as…I got up and went to work today!  The more you say nice things to yourself and about yourself, the easier it will be to expect the good from others.  Alright sweetness…until next time…

Take care…xoxo



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