Life Is What Happens When You Are Making Other Plans

by Mindy Kaleta on June 9, 2014

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Life Is What Happens When You Are Making Other Plans


The above picture was my dream.  Living in the country, surrounded by fields, spotted with horses.  That was my focus. And so our hunt for the perfect place ensued.  But it was not to be, not this time around at least. Maybe our next place?  Maybe not.  Let me explain.

Selling our house and buying a new one, was quite the experience.  I’m so glad that I gave myself a few weeks to “settle” before I started talking about it, because as is often the case, I was in no mood to be objective, fair or  accepting of the situation.

Many a time, during this process, my husband and I wished we had never started it.  Yes, we wanted to get him closer to his job. Yes, we were wanting to get a bigger yard for the dogs and yes, I wanted the solitude of the country…maybe a barn…and if I couldn’t have my own horse again, just maybe we could live next door to one and I could view it out my window.

As it turned out, we did not get our home in the country that we were looking for. We did not get Don much closer to his work. (It’s a tad closer)  But what we did get was a very nice place, in a nice area with friendly neighbors on about 1/3 of an acre (which Don says, is enough to cut!) LOL!!  As a consolation prize, even the names of the streets in our neighborhood have a horse theme…such as Paddock Court, Harness Way…etc.  (I didn’t even notice that until days after we actually put in the offer!)  And while we were doing our inspection, what did we see?  A ladybug crawling up the wall!  To me that was a sign to me that God was saying to us, “It’s alright. Everything is going to be okay.”

Maybe we weren’t meant at this time in our lives to actually increase in size of a house and property.  When everyone else our age is downsizing, we were looking for more!  Not until we actually moved all our stuff, did we realize how much “stuff” we really had!  Yikes!  It made us take a long hard look at what we are lugging around and to ask ourselves, do we really want to continue to lug, insure, maintain all this “stuff”?

Some may take this as a sign that “you don’t always get what you want”. But I don’t agree with that.  Maybe what we really wanted was deeper than we thought.  We wanted a place in the country for the solitude, the peace and quiet. But…that would also mean…distance from our family, our kids and grandkids, which is NOT what we really want.  Having family around us is very important to us, and we weren’t looking far enough ahead of the beautiful fields, the view of horses to see what we would be sacrificing to get that.

So, you see…God has a way of helping us to get where we need to go (and be) by looking deep into our souls to see what it is that we actually DO WANT! Even if we can’t see it at the time. So, here we are.  Close to our kids, grandkids…a back yard that backs up to a green space with horse farm fencing to give me that feel of being in the country; hard wood floors that have the feel of barn siding; cozy kitchen and family room; large deck for family gatherings; a big dining room for those special dinners around the table; and a room to house my library again. Don got his full basement that he is looking forward to remodeling into a theater room (we love movies), exercise room and music room. So, you see…they say, “things happen for a reason”.  Who knows what is down the road, but for now, we are eternally grateful to be “Home”.

In another blog post, I will talk about how close we came to not being able to find the right home and the fear that can grip you when you think that since you have to get out of your present home by a certain date/time and realizing that you COULD end up in a parking lot, with truck in tow with three cats and two dogs!!  Yes, YIKES!!!  But that’s another story!!

For now, we are happy, and as in Under the Tuscan Sun when Frances went through the house, introduced herself and allowed the house to introduce itself to her; we too are getting acquainted with our new home. Of course it’s got it’s quirks, just like all of us.  But it feels really good.  Even from the first time we walked through, it had a good feel to it. So, we are grateful and happy to have this all behind us now and getting back to the joy of living.  There is a lot to be said for having a place of your own, no matter how humble…”there’s no place like home!”



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