Finding Your Why
Alright, in my last blog post Are You Settling for Less Than You Deserve?) we were talking about taking a pen and paper out and writing down those things, deep within your brain that you dreamed of as a child, teen and early adult; dusting it off and giving it another look. Were you able to do that? If not, stop right now and take a moment to remember those dreams and goals for your life that you may have placed aside. Or if you are like some folks, their dream has never left them and they are determined to keep the dream alive and to see it manifested at some point in their lives.
Then I asked you to again take that pen and paper and write down those things that you ecstatically LOVED about having those dreams/goals become a reality and what you would absolutely HATE if they never were realized. (You can read more about that in blog post How to Know if your Why is Strong Enough) If you haven’t had a chance to do that, please stop and complete that exercise as well. You will need both to continue to Finding YOUR Why!
Please Note: Ok, so you have some dreams and goals that you couldn’t stop thinking about (or still can’t) written down. For this exercise, take just one of those…maybe one that you feel you could reach for in the next couple of weeks or months (depending on the size of your dream or goal). And you have defined what you absolutely LOVE about this dream or goal and what you would hate to face if you were never to see it realized. So, now you should have some pretty strong emotions built up around your dream goal.
Now it’s time to Find Your Reason Why!
Again, from Robert Kiyosaki’s book, Rich Dad…he explains:
“What is a Reason Why? It’s that something in your soul that drives you to keep going when things don’t go according to plan. It’s that very personal prize at the end of the rainbow that inspires you and motivates.”
Something that drives you…keeps you going…even when things don’t turn out the way you thought it would. It’s gotta be big, it’s gotta be strong…strong enough to pull you out of your slump when disappointments come…big enough to remind you of what you wanted and the deep love you have for this dream. And how much you would regret it if you don’t reach this dream goal. The regrets are something you will want to avoid at all costs, right? Ok, so now that we have the thrill of being, doing or having…and the disappointment and the emotions of not…it’s time to start getting real!!!
Here is where it gets really exciting!!
While Robert Kiyosaki’s Finding Your Why Exercise in his book Rich Dad is extremely beneficial with thought provoking questions such as:
- What would you do, be or have if anything was possible and you had no limits
- Taking those answers and asking “why” to dig deeper and deeper and
- getting to the bottom of what drives you
…I believe that there is more…much more to the equation! And as I was taking myself through this process, other questions were surfacing that had little to do with whether my dream goal was logical, made sense or would be viewed by family, friends or the general public as anything close to viable! I took myself to a place where my mind was looking at it in a totally different perspective…my questions were more of an emotional nature such as; “how does living your dream goal make you feel?” “What does it look like?” And so I started to envision what my dream goal would look like, feel like, how it would impact others, what kind of a difference my dream goal would make in the lives of others. To really see it and feel it…wow…exciting and priceless!! I could envision my dream goal, I could see certain aspects of it in place, I could see the smiles on the faces of the people I want to serve and how it could change their lives. Powerful stuff!
I not only envisioned how others would feel, but how I would feel as I was doing, being or having this dream goal. I could feel what this dream goal was possible of, how I could live my ideal life doing what I love, being surrounded by the things I love and living everyday…my ultimate dream life!
My favorite way to record this is to write it in a journal. But you may want to record it in your own voice with a smartphone app with all the excitement you can muster and then play it back to yourself when you start to doubt yourself. (That certainly would be helpful to hear your own voice in your head reminding why your dream is important to you!) I’m a visual learner and putting pen to paper (or to keyboard) is how my thoughts and feelings flow most easily. But whatever resonates with you…give yourself the gift of a quiet afternoon to explore, dream and make it real! I promise you, it will time well spent!
Join me next time when we explore another exciting and revealing piece of the puzzle – your instinctual mode of operation…how are you wired…what is your specific gift to the world and how can we use what you love and do best in realizing your dreams! I can’t wait to share it with you!
Will you do me a favor? If this is has been helpful and you would like to share, leave a comment below! I would love to hear your thoughts!